Four proven steps to be a calmer person

I love Sunday mornings- when I wake up I just lie in bed and spend sometime without the need to do anything – no need to rush, no need to talk to anyone. That lying, with my eyes open and nothing in my mind, is normally one of the calmest moments in my life.
I have decided to try and be a calm person in everything I do. I believe it will help me make better decisions, to be more focused and ultimately help lead a stress free life. Here is the path I have so far identified and has endeavored to use:-

1 Live in the now

This is the most proven technique to achieve calmness. It’s clear when you wake up and decide to do nothing but just lie in bed. The same goes for everything you do.
If am now typing my post, I stop browsing other sites and articles. I believed multitasking was the best thing that ever happened, but I’ve discovered that I can achieve more by just concentrating on one thing at a time. I know miracles can and will happen when I focus.
If I start this, I will be more focused in all I do. After a while I hope to see that am not worried about what the future holds for me. As long as I stick to my plan, I am confident I’ll do great.

2 Forget things I can not fix now

I am a service engineer – this gives me a lot of problems to be fixed in different machines in several companies. Some are quite critical and challenging – and I often can not stop thinking about them even at home.
I’ve discovered that his is not good, and I’ve resolved not to carry work home. Anything I can’t fix at work I will forget about it till the next day.
What’s the point of thinking about a machine at a customer site when am at home? My family and house deserves better attention from me. Previously I thought that by thinking about the machine problems at home I may stumble upon a solution that may make my job easier tomorrow.
I think nothing is worth the five hours or so of family time. The machines have and will always be there – but I cannot say the same about family members. The children are growing fast before my eyes and there is nothing I shall do about the time I shall have missed.

3 Let Go

Not all problems in my life need to be fixed. Not all mail in my inbox need to be read and / or replied. Some problems are meant for someone else, like treating cancer and so on ….
Others are not meant to be solved at all, like the case of a bullying spouse. You may talk to him, his family, his church or counselor and so on but still there is no change. All you can do is let go – quit your marriage or bear it all. Either way he will still be the bully he is.
In the end I have learnt that I can not have everything. So I’ve learnt to let go. I’ve stopped trying to fix it. This will help minimize damage and let me go on with my life. A falling rock will hurt me less if I catch it with my hands moving down than when my hand is moving up.

4 Set a limit

This is the most important of them all. I'll write down the three cases above and determine when they’re valid or not.
For example, I'll look for situations when forgetting things may make me lose my job or family. Being calm is good, but not to the extent of losing a job or family. Some issues that require urgency will remain urgent unless sorted out.
Determine which issues are urgent shall be the pillar in my decision making - and the ultimate path to calmness.